And then a window opens…

My weeks are long.  Some weeks seem so impossibly long, that by the time Friday rolls around I am fairly certain I will not make it through.  One too many e-mails, phone calls, appointments, meetings, bills, arguments, conflicts, worries . . . what have you.  I do, of course.  We all do.  No matter what happens, we are all usually gifted with enough . . . (What?  Oomph?  Chutzpah?  Will?  Determination!  Yeah.  Let’s go with determination.) determination to make it through those days and weeks when the challenges seem to outweigh the triumphs.

This was one of those weeks.  This month has kind of been (mostly) made up of these weeks.  Why?  Didn’t 2014 get the memo that *this* year was supposed to be the best?  Did the Universe not understand that *I* had big plans to be better – AT EVERYTHING?  Better wife, better mother, better friend, better, better, better….

Better s-l-o-w down there, missy, because *you* are setting yourself up for a major face plant on the floor of this shiny New Year!

Where was I?  Oh yes!  Long week.  You “get” it, yes?  Great.  Moving on.

This week I didn’t even make it until Friday before my mettle was tested.  Bare in mind, in many ways, it’s tested on a daily basis for various reasons.  Some of which are typical, run-of-the-mill, everyday annoyances that everyone experiences to one degree or another.  Some, well… some are unique to my situation as the mother of, and the wife of, some pretty interesting individuals. (To be clear, I just have the one husband, but I am confident he’d agree that he is definitely an individual!)

Maybe I put a bit too much pressure on myself?  Maybe thinking my very first blog entry should be so gripping and interesting that it would catch the eye of a kind audience of readers who would all declare, “I laughed.  I cried.  It moved me!”, was a bit ambitious?  When I think about it logically, I have to agree that it is possible.

I mean, just since I started typing at my laptop, here, in my kitchen (where I must stand to type because “laptop” is a bit of a misnomer for my “Frankenputer” now, but I digress…) I have been interrupted no fewer than five times by Thing 1 who is currently playing Clumsy Ninja on my iThing and is just so excited by every. single. new. thing. his Clumsy Ninja pal does, he can’t help, but interrupt to share all the fun with me.  Forget that there are two other people here who would be happy to listen.  Forget that his little sister might actually *really* love to hear what he has to say, so she can try to do a similar thing with her Ninja.  He comes to me.  Me.  Always me.  It’s lovely, really.  It is also, if I am to be honest at all, exhausting.  However, his enthusiasm is pure joy and when he cheekily asked a few minutes ago, “Was it worth it?” I just smiled and kissed him and agreed that, yes, it was.  Watching that chicken, with 5 balloons attached to her back, floating up into the cartoon sky was totally worth my losing my train of thought.  And it was.  This is my life. 

So, yes, perhaps I made a bit of a mountain out of a molehill where this particular endeavour is concerned. Okay.  I’ll get over myself.  

This week was a challenge from stem to stern. Thursday’s mail came with not one, but two scary letters. The kind that make you catch your breath. The kind that make you wonder why you bother trying to be a good, fine, upstanding citizen. The kind that you are 100% certain will have nothing good to say on the inside of their envelopes. The kind, that though you are digging deep and putting your inner Pollyanna on high alert for a serious dose of positivity, you just know nothing good can possibly come from. The kind, worst of all, that you can’t do a darn thing about until the next day. Ugh! Who can sleep now!?!

Then Friday came. See? We make it. Despite everything to the contrary, we make it.

On Friday, there’s a tiny bit of a “hope boost”, isn’t there? It’s organic. Naturally built into even a stressful week. The weekend is so close we can taste it. Just get the children out the door and onto their buses and we’re golden! The Things will have time to play, read, breathe, do nothing. If I’m lucky, so will *I*! This is enough to get me through the day, but on this  particular Friday a beautiful thing happened. A very kind message left on my iThing by the VP at Thing 1’s school, praising Thing 1 for something that had occurred the day before. A reminder that the things we do and say make a difference, not only in the lives of our Things, but also in the lives of their friends and classmates (and teachers). Kindness.

I cried. Yup. I cried in my car in the parking lot of a bulk food store. Then I laughed at my ridiculousness and went to buy Chia (You know? Ch-ch-ch-chia!) for my smoothies because – gosh darn it – this year I *am* going to be BETTER! 

Just maybe not at everything, all the time, right away. 





About Peadyhttp://temperedwithkindness.comI’m sensitive and I’d like to stay that way.

31 thoughts on “And then a window opens…

    • We did! We always do! Thank goodness we are on opposite “panic” cycles. 😀 Thank you for always being so kind. I am eternally grateful for your tech support, too! Built in IT dept. Not too shabby for my first blog. 😉

    • Thank you! I “gotta” be me! Who else would I be? 😀

      Yeah 2014 *might* need to be slapped, in kind, (see what I did there?) upside the head with a wet noodle!

      If you put ch-ch-ch-chia in a Margarita it *totally* becomes Paleo and GF and Low Carb and basically a health food, so YES! Let’s!

    • Thank you! I am happy to hear that you will be reading. 🙂 I will try my best to keep it interesting.

      Yes! Even Pollyannas get the blues. Especially when a month is so darn determined to be a jerk face! 😀

  1. Great first post! I always get a “hope boost” on Fridays. For me, they’re often better than the weekend because the anticipation trumps the reality! This is a great reminder for those of us in education that we need to share “good news” with parents more often – it really makes a difference!

    • Thank you for your kind words. I really appreciate your comment.

      I am with you on that whole anticipation thing. Thank goodness our brains *mostly* want us to be happy. 😀

      Oh! Yes! Sharing positive news with parents – even seemingly itty bitty bits of positive growth or development – is a wonderful practice! It can really turn a day/week/month around. The flip side of that coin is also worth mentioning, I think. Teachers, Support Staff and Administrators who go that extra step to make a child’s day, get my praise, too! A cheery and thankful e-mail or note – just a sentence, even – can boost morale. I do it often. 😀

  2. Yay You! Your best quality just might be that you get up and go one more day, usually with a glimmer of optimism. Thanks for the share.

    • Thank you! When the chips are down we simply have to believe that things will get better. Some days are easier than others to tap into the “believe” stores. 😀 I am blessed to have humans to pick me up if ever I. can’t. even. Heh heh! Thank goodness *you* are my people!

  3. This is a fantastic first post! I mean, yes, I would sure be happier if every day was a much easier, breezier one for you, but this? This is so real. I love this. And I am so happy that with Friday comes hope… I totally feel that. 🙂

    • Thank you! That means a lot coming from someone I respect so much as a writer/Mom/blogger/human! 😀

      Easy days may never happen, but my patience sure has been honed over the years and that has to count for something, right?

      Friday makes all the other days worth it!

  4. I think your first post is perfect. Exactly what Lisa said. It’s you and that’s whose words we want to read. Also, I hope 2014 gets the memo because we’re into month two already. Pass the chia.

  5. I have to admit that I’m wondering what the scary letters were about. Glad to hear that Friday rounded out the week with a good cry. Oh. Well, at least it was a happy cry. Right.

    No, you can’t be perfect at everything all the time. I’ve set my expectations really low and it’s going well for me.

    Besos, Sarah
    Blogger at Journeys of The Zoo

    • Oh! Did I leave you hanging? I guess that’s a good thing. maybe you’ll come back to find out another time? 😉

      Suffice it to say, both letters have since been dealt with and neither were health related, so blessing counting continues! 😀

      I *love* your attitude and practical approach to expectation setting. I shall try and follow suit!

    • Miss you, too! The photos people shared from Winterlude were making me feel very mixed emotions about where I am.

      The weather looked just about perfect this year!

  6. What fantastic read! I love your style – it’s so “you”!
    2014 can suck my… ahem… but perhaps it’s just a crummy start so that we can have a fantastic contrast for all the great things ahead. (Are you listening 2014?!)
    Here is to an ever better rest of the year. I’m looking forward to reading all of your blog entries!

    • Aww. Thank you! That really means a lot. 😀

      Yes 2014 (and the last half of 2013, but I won’t go dragging up the past!) can start behaving any day now. *waits patiently*

      I am so happy that you visited and read! Yay!

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