Mele Kalikimaka!

Tropical Tree

Today might be a three post kind of day because I have so many drafts, that I am starting to get anxious about it.

Anxiety at Christmas? You don’t say!


Who doesn’t have a little extra anxiety during the holidays? I don’t think I know a single person, actually.

However, I have vowed to not be that stressed out Mummy. No way. It’s no fun to be told Christmas is nothing but stress. Or worse, to think it. Especially when you have little eyes and ears watching and listening to everything you do and say. It’s simply not true, anyway.

Christmas is a wonderful season of perpetual hope, and if there is one thing I have learned in my years on this planet* it’s that hope floats. It’s always there and you have to hone your hope holding skills throughout your life, because it’s short. Really, really short. Even when it seems long.

Christmas is what you make it. You can make it all about stuff and spending and stress. Sure! Go right ahead. Seriously, fill your boots, but don’t blame your getting caught up in the commercialism on Christmas. Nope. Christmas didn’t make you do that. Santa didn’t point to the most expensive, elaborate, electronics and say, “By the powers of Comet’s Candy Cane, I command you to buy that!”. Not a chance.

Christmas is simple.

Humans make it complicated.

You have to be human, but you don’t have to be pressured into a holiday that stresses you out.

Cool your jets.

Take a breath.

Remember the wonder.

Breathe in the aromas.

Think back to a time when you believed in the magic.

Embrace the simplicity of an old fashioned Christmas, whatever that means to you.

Know that you are not alone.

Everyone is stressin’ a bit.

No one has *everything* done.

Martha Stewart has a team!

We just have each other.

Smile and know that even when people around you seem to have everything under control, there’s always an element of mystery in how the heck things get done.

For instance, we here at Chez Peady have been having the soggiest December I can ever recall and we have also been fighting a wicked cold, so we are very admittedly behind our typical December schedule. All the things that have not yet been done, were put on the back burner while the things that had to be done got done. School concerts, finding the lost trumpet, trumpet practice, finding the right shoes, making sure everyone was where they needed to be on time, getting a bit of shopping done, making sure I talked to my mother as often as possible, getting to a few charity eventseven one in my Jammies – these all took precedent over making sure the ornaments were in the perfect place.

It’s life and it’s messy.


Christmas Mess


Am I freaking out? Nope. Why should I? Why should I waste a single drop of my precious energy freaking out when it will get done, with or without a grown-up tinsel tantrum?

It always has. I have yet to miss a Christmas. *wink*

So, my best advice to you, as Christmas is festively, twinkling up on us, is to take a deep breath and embrace the merriment.


Don’t forget to take care of your own needs, too. You matter! We need you to be at your best**, of course.

This morning I went to Zumba – just so you know I really am practicing what I preach – and I almost jumped for joy when I heard this pop up in the middle of class.

Yes, we did a Hula this morning to Mele Kalikimaka***. It was so fun! Could my Zumba instructor be any cooler?


So, tell me, what stage of preparedness are you in for the upcoming Holidays?

Are you about ready to be Dasher and flee the scene?

Are you happily a Prancer ready to take on the task and dance your way through your cookie exchange?

Are you feeling Grinch-like and wondering what the heck is the big deal anyway?

Has your inner Ebenezer reared his Scrooge-y grumpiness?

What is your best advice for having a yule that’s cool?

Leave a comment and share your best tips for avoiding tinsel tantrums.



*No, I have never lived on another planet. Though there was that time last winter when it felt like we lived on Hoth.

**But we even like you when you are at your worst.

***Mele Kalikimaka**** has been a month-long mind-worm. Go ahead and ask my chicas! Ukuleles at Christmastime? Oh YES!

****Then there’s this, which I saw on Saturday, but wasn’t blogged out until today, hence the edit! COME ON!! This is hulu-arious! (Day #8) Zucchini is the sweetest doggie!

About Peadyhttp://temperedwithkindness.comI’m sensitive and I’d like to stay that way.

10 thoughts on “Mele Kalikimaka!

  1. #SaturdaynightUKEfever oh yes this is soooo happening- look what I found:

    Click to access Mele%20Kalikimaka.pdf

    Can I just say thanks for reminding me about great music and great reasons to breathe and keep all things in check- yes I have not *missed* a Christmas and everything seems to be panning out just fine.

    Besos to you and all Peady-elves and maybe the universe will bring you a ‘decorative’ load of snow…nothing worthy of closing bridges just prettiness.

    • SQUEE!!! How awesome is that!?!?

      Oh! Have I not shared my tale of woe where the purple ukulele of joy is concerned? Oh, ’tis a sad, sad tale. 😦

      I want my purple uke back! It needs a new saddle.. because of reasons.. Grr.

      BUT! I want it! I can’t seem to find one anywhere and when I contacted Mahalo, they didn’t respond with so much as an Aloha. 😦

      Oh! And I can’t even drown my sorrows in a giant Costco thing of Mona Loa Macadamias because I can’t find them anywhere either! Waaaah!

      Music makes everything merrier!

      Christmas will come whether we are ready or not.. and even if we are not, we will be, you know what I mean?

      Besos back at you and your New Green-as-Elf hats crew! I sure do miss seeing you on a daily basis!

      We need a bit of snow, before the Polar Bears start migrating south because what have they got to lose, really! 😉

      Happy Sunday!

    • Merry Christmas to you! 🙂

      Did you get the tree started?

      Ours is almost done… we are taking it in stride. 😉

      The patio has lights!! 😀 This is Sunday’s small victory.

    • It has taken YEARS to even get it a little bit right. Honestly. Being a “Stressful Sally” by nature takes a LOT of energy to contain/overcome. There are still days… you know?

      But! Oh, the magic! We have to see the wonder and appreciate the time because it really is gone too soon. We can keep it though. There’s always someone, somewhere, in need of a little magic. Small acts of kindness (especially the ones no one will ever know about) fuel that. 🙂

      I love that song, too! Imagine my sheer joy when it started during Zumba!! I was so happy!


      Happy Sunday!

    • Hee hee!

      If only I had a Taunton to snuggle with last winter…

      So far, this season, I find myself wishing for a boat, some nice hip waders and a great un-poppable umbrella!

  2. I am enjoying my first laisse faire Christmas in ages. I’m not planning on putting my tree or inside decorations up until next Sunday because the less time everything is out the less time my animals have to destroy it all!! I will also be doing the crux of my Christmas baking next weekend. Shopping is 98% finished and I will be wrapping whist watching Christmas movies and sipping home made Baileys a couple of evenings this week. Life is good, the season is magical and I’m with you, I wish a wee bit of snow would fall 🙂 Merry Christmas to you and yours! 🙂

    • Bravo! Good for you! It’s so good to breathe and take it on and enjoy it as much as possible.

      See? The silver lining of holding off on the Cristmaspalooza is that the pets stay out of trouble. 😉 I love it!

      You have it all under control.. you are setting a great example. 🙂 I like how you have a plan, but it’s so mellow.. love it!!

      It *is* magical! Just a teensy dusting would be so nice. A little bit of seasonal weather to boost the moods. The Things *need* snow. 😉

      Merry Christmas! Thank you for reading and commenting! It means a lot.

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