Zen & the Art of Shameless Self Promotion (or “We Are Going To Be Friends”)

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Good morning! (This is being written in real time with minimal edits because if I stop to save and/or edit I will delete it and that would completely defeat the purpose and be a huge waste of time. So, no. Today I am the boss of me. YES! Even the bossiest part of me. Shall I continue? Yes. Yes I shall.)

So.

Hey! I am glad I am here today and I am especially glad you are here today (whichever day that happens to be) because I need to say something and well I could keep saying it to myself – I am a wonderful listener and I think all my ideas are totally brilliant – HAH!, but that isn’t getting me anywhere. I think I should invite you in. Are you cool with that?

So, you know I work in Social Media, right? I mean. I LOVE Social Media and in some ways it loves me back, but through a series of recent events I have come to realize I enjoy getting paid in actual dollars and so I want to use the powers I possess to (maybe) make a bit more of a living wage.

I have two kids (Thing 1; 16 and Thing 2; 12) and there are braces and University degrees to pay for and I have a crazy dream that one day I will own a house (small) with a yard (BIG) and I want to do what I can in the time I am on this planet to live my life to the fullest and make a happy home for my family (and friends, too!). The rapidly aging car is also serving as a constant reminder these days that death is imminent and well, we have to hope for the best and plan for the worst and cars do not last forever, nor do they pay for their own replacements, so I need to dig deep and get my hustle on way more than I have been.

I have been keeping the “social” in Social Media for as long as I have been using Social Media. I do not want that to change. People love to say that things are “not the same” and that it was “better before when people were chatty” and “actual conversations were happening”. Here’s the thing. If I am there, it is chatty. If I am there, there will always be conversation.

I guess what I am saying is this, if you want Social Media to be a certain way then you must forge that path. Forge, as opposed to follow. I mean, that’s what a path is, y’all. You make it. So, do the thing that makes it enjoyable for you.

If you enjoy chatting with a certain person or love following a celebrity or hamburger conglomerate, so be it. You do you!

It comes down to that saying about if you cant find a nice person BE one. You have to be that thing. Seek the good. See the good. BE the good. There are so many ways that Social Media can have a positive impact on the world. Stop looking at the things that drive you bonkers and make you want to toss your devices into the sea. Start focussing on the good stuff.

“The world is full of nice people. If you can’t find one, be one.”

― Nishan Panwar

I want to be you good stuff, you guys.

I have the power. (Peady Powers are real and they are spectacular!)

BUT!

I can only do so much all alone. I can keep writing and sprinkling kindness around like confetti – and I will – but it would be immensely helpful if more actual people could see me. Read my words, see my silliness, like my photos, and maybe, just maybe, feel a teensy bit more hopeful than before they did.

So, I am asking for your help. Please. Will you help me?

If you see a Facebook status or share on Tempered with Kindness that you enjoy, like it. Take the second or two you happen to be there and actually click like or even share it. It will maybe let Facebook know that my tens of readers are loyal and kind and that more than 12 of them would enjoy seeing a post. (Yes. Facebook actually limits what you see. If you want to see more of a certain thing, person, page, you have to make a point of liking those things. Some people also suggest going to your notifications and choosing “see this first” so you will see an actual person, writer, blogger, page or fun thing you love rather than something that pays to be seen. Think BIG businesses with even bigger budgets.)

If you use Twitter (still my favourite!) please follow me – and tell me you have by saying hello or starting a conversation – and I will come see you and we can actually connect. I have met so many fun, smart, kind, and interesting people through Twitter. I love hashtags and have come up with several through the years. One of my favourites is #tweepstopeeps which I use for friends I have made via Twitter who have become friends IRL (in real life!). So, come to Twitter and say hello to @Peady and let’s show the Twitterverse the power of positivity and kindness because we are #connectingnotcollecting. Don’t get me wrong. It’s not all sunshine and roses. I am a parent of a teenager and tween – we are all about #keepinitreal – there are plenty of sarcastic comments and a multitude of “ARGH!” moments. It’s life! Come vent.

Instagram is a really big platform. Everyone is using it! Teens, pets, GINORMOUS brands, your Orthodontist, your favourite gluten free snack. I mean, it is really easy to feel lost in it all. It’s not exactly all about the numbers (remember: connecting not collecting), but to some degree they do matter. I am SO stuck in Instagram. I engage. I share. I tell little stories about my day or photos. I am me – as I always am – yet I cannot seem to get eyes on my posts. Again, just like Facebook (they are owned by the same people) if you like something or want to jump in and chat, please actually take a second and double tap (even from way back… you know… where the trouble’s at?) so I can see you and so you can see me.

I never want engaging with me to feel like a task. I want to greet you the same way I would if I bumped into you at the library or grocery store. Maybe seeing each other would require a put-down-all-the-things BIG hug, maybe we’d chat a while, maybe someone would have a baseball cap pulled low to avoid eye contact because Moms are TIRED, yo! It’s all good. I just want you to know I am here for a reason and so are you and should our reasons align on any given day, it’d be cool to connect. Wouldn’t you agree?

My hope, here, there, and everywhere, is to be able to continue spreading kindness, sharing the good, pointing out injustices in places we can help (because I need hopefulness in my life!), and connecting like-minded individuals for good.

It will help me to get my message out if more people can see it, read it, connect with it.

That is the honest truth. (Is there any other kind? What a weird phrase!)

So, please come and find me in all the places and say hello. Seek the good. See the good. Share the good. BE the good.

Thanks for listening and for helping me to work towards my goals.

Dreams are good.

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Goals get things done!

Now, I am going to hit publish before I hit delete. It’s like a constant race against time over here, you guys! 😀

Make it a great day! I hope to see a lot more of you soon.